Getting a prenup can be a tricky topic to raise with your partner. Understandably, people may find them unromantic or pessimistic. However, a lot of this comes from a misunderstanding of how they work and why people use them.
Here are some things to consider when speaking to your partner about why the two of you should consider getting one.
Choose the right time and place
Having a discussion early on means you can iron out any difficulties before you approach your wedding day. This can not only take the worry of it off your mind but it also helps from a practical perspective. When a prenup is drafted, both parties need to seek independent legal advice before signing. Sometimes, further negotiations must take place if a solicitor doesn’t believe the prenup will be upheld in court.
When you want to have a serious discussion with someone, it’s best to do it somewhere without any distractions. Stressful settings can cause people to become more anxious or agitated, which doesn’t set the scene well for a conversation like this.
At the same time, don’t build it up in your head. Have your explanations ready to go and raise the subject calmly.
Be honest and open
Honesty is an important part of any relationship. At the same time, you need to be respectful. Raising the topic in the right way is one thing, but so is listening to any concerns your partner might have. Serious discussions like these are a two-way street.
Be as positive as you can and be careful with your wording so you get the message across in the right way. This is where doing plenty of research can help.
Explain why getting a prenup would ease concerns you may have about protecting your assets. While many people associate prenups with divorce, it can also be helpful if one partner passes away. Framing the conversation in a way that focuses on the future of the relationship, rather than the end, can be helpful.
Involve a professional
Some people might find that arranging a meeting with a trained legal expert is a more comfortable solution. This way, a family law solicitor can outline the prenup process in more detail, which could help your partner feel more at ease.
You’ll both need to be in contact with a family law solicitor to proceed with the prenup process, so why not start the initial discussions with the help of one too? Hearing the ins and outs of getting a prenup directly from a professional can help to bring a more neutral voice into the discussion.
Once you and your partner have agreed to proceed with a prenup, you can contact a family law solicitor from a reputable firm to arrange the next steps.
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